Top 12 Sexual Fantasies Women Crave Most …

What tickles your fancy? Women have a rich, diverse world of fantasies - more than most of their lovers or friends realize. This guide will show you what's going on in women's minds, but also inspire you to create new worlds for yourself or with your lover. Following each description is a brief passage of a fantasy from one of Tickle Kitty's readers. So start your imagination engines - and have fun!

1: Power exchange: sex with men in uniform

Uniforms equal power and authority, but also men who serve the public and…women! This form of role-playing often involves a woman being rescued and ravished by a man who can take charge in bed - firemen are popular. On the other side of the power coin, some women fantasize about taking control and commanding the authority figure to have sex with them or to perform specific acts.

Barbara of Los Angeles wrote, "He comes upstairs to where I've been stranded, breaks down the door and enters to see if I'm OK. He is gentle and kind, but also professional, strong and very handsome. He insists that he needs to check my physical condition before I can be transported to safety. His powerful hands begin to caress my body and I reach out to him, feeling his hard chest under his t-shirt. Gently, he bends down a kisses me deeply, his lips tasting of smoke and sweat…"

2: Strangers in the night: sex that always feels like the first time

For many women, great sex involves liberation from inhibitions or separation from the identities of their real lives. By losing identity in a fantasy, sex loses boundaries and creates the fresh buzz of being with someone for the first time. A woman can dream of doing anything with anyone and under any conditions. Common to these fantasies is the notion of spontaneity, where the woman and her lover connect at random or mysteriously in darkness.

Jacqueline in Seattle wrote, "After eyeing each other from across the room for a while, I excused myself from the conversation and looked over to see if he would take the hint. When I looked back to see him following me, my heart jumped - I was really going to do this! I went to the end of the hallway and crept into the study, quickly turning out the lights and leaving the door ajar. When he entered, I didn't even say a word, I just let my desire run wild, kissing him deeply and grinding my body against his…"

3: Body and soul: bisexual or lesbian fantasies

Fantasies of sex with other women focus on tenderness and sensuality. They often fulfill missing elements of sex with men, where the woman feels what it is like to be with another soft, gentle lover who knows just how to set her passion on fire. In addition, many women find a fantasy in which both lovers can achieve multiple orgasms to be an extra turn-on. These fantasies are filled with romance and involve a deep, intuitive, nurturing, spiritual connection between lovers.

Sarah of San Diego wrote, "There was so much tenderness and caring in the way she massaged my shoulders and neck that I just relaxed back into her. I could feel her warm breath right next to my ear for a moment before she leaned forward and kissed my cheek gently. Tingles of pleasure and excitement cascaded through my body and she lay me back on the bed, smiling. Without a word, she slowly moved over me and kissed my lips deeply. She smelled so sweet and felt so soft, so loving. Her beautiful, plump breasts nuzzled against mine - I felt myself rising to embrace her, pouring my soul in to hers…"

4: Tie me up, fuck me hard, and set me free: non-consensual sex

Sometimes known as "rape fantasies," these are not about violence but about a woman compelled to experience pleasure against her will. Held captive or physically overpowered, a rough, attractive stranger will drive her to orgasm or coerce her into performing acts she might normally never perform. The key issues at hand are power and responsibility; being swept away by a man's physical strength over her, she can find release from responsibility for her actions or desires. Relieved of this burden, her desire can run wild, unlocking new levels of pleasure with abandon.

Samantha of Truckee wrote, "In the confusion and darkness, I'd lost any sense of what was really going on. Having been asleep when he came in, I was still groggy as he yanked me up and bound my wrists with piece of rope to the handrail at the top of the stairs. 'Straighten your legs and bend over, bitch!' I suddenly realized that the voice wasn't Rick's. A cold streak of panic suddenly ran through me - was this all part of the plan? I tried to pull away from the ropes as my sleepy mind tried to remember the safety word to stop, but he was already in me, thrusting his big cock into my pussy. At least I knew it was really him, but I couldn't believe the power of his body as he took control of me, bucking and grinding against the railing…"

5: Master and servant: the erotic power of domination

For some women, power is the most potent aphrodisiac of all, where they can take command of their environment in ways they may not feel are possible in their normal lives. By commanding a man to perform certain acts, such as cunnilingus, she gains the extra pleasure of orgasm without the need to reciprocate. In a similar way, domination fantasies can focus on a certain person over whom the woman seeks to be powerful, making him beg or giving him a thorough spanking.

The same principle of power can work the other direction, where the woman is forced to do things against her will, yet rewarded with pleasure. Similarly, receiving discipline in this power relationship can be turn-on, where she gets spanking herself or is tied up and pleasured to her limit. By removing her responsibility from sex, she can lose any feelings associated with experiencing "guilty pleasures" or being a "naughty girl."

Elizabeth of Denver wrote, "I may not have been wearing a black latex body suit or cracking a whip, but I felt like a dominatrix all the same. I put one of my shiny red pumps on the back of neck as he crouched down in front on me in worship and said, 'roll over, meat puppet.' He obeyed instantly. I was thrilled to have this power over a 6'4" 220-pound man - too bad my older brothers never behaved this way when I was growing up! I crouched down and teased him by barely rubbing my pussy against his face. 'Lick me, you fool, - slooowwwwly.' He stuck out his long tongue and began delicately licking my outer labia. I was thrilled with the combined power and pleasure of this ritual - it was totally intoxicating."

6: Screaming for more: the turn-on of having an audience

Whether with a single, passive voyeur or a stadium of cheering crowds, many women fantasize about being watched. It is an opportunity to be seen for her true womanhood - open, wild, uninhibited, sexy - and loved for it. Better yet, the power that comes from the ability to arouse others is a tasty ego boost. In a number of scenarios, such fantasies evolve into complete audience participation, all revolving around the woman as she presides over her subjects as a grand sexual goddess.

Alexis of Lake Tahoe wrote, "We were already groping and kissing furiously when the ski lift gondola stopped half way up the mountain. It was a bit nerve-wracking to have foreplay hanging a thousand over the valley, swinging in the wind, but it didn't seem to slow him down. It was only when he pulled my sweater off and starting licking and fondling my nipples that I suddenly noticed the other gondola car stopped opposite ours. Inside were about six or seven people - all trying to hide how fascinated they were in watching us. When I showed Jack what was going on, I transformed into an animal, pulling down my ski pants for him. 'Put it inside of me now, baby!' I loved flashing my sweet ass at the group, now plastered against the windows of their gondola. Our windows were steaming up as Jack started pumping me harder and harder, just before the cars started moving again…"

7: Give me your latex love: strap-ons and wild, erotic toys

A wild and fun fantasy category, strap-on sex and related toys often work in two directions. First, women see themselves penetrating their male lovers, thriving in the power of an erection and seeing his vulnerability as he gets a dose of his own medicine. Second, many women who have lesbian fantasies see themselves screwing their girlfriends, either vaginally or anally. Either way, strap-ons become a source of delivering both power and pleasure. Toy fantasies specifically tend to be highly personalized and tailored to a woman's unique turn-ons, whether with a lover or solo. Toys are a very powerful way for a woman to re-create many different types of fantasies and can stimulate incredibly powerful orgasms, so they are worth exploring!

For more information on dildos, vibrators and other toys, see chapters 8 and 9 of Tickle Your Fancy, Also see the online store at for a complete selection of toys.

Katrina of London wrote, "When she came back in the room, I couldn't believe my eyes. It was such an odd contrast to have this gorgeous woman's body standing there with this big rubber dong hanging between her legs. I stroked it in amazement, almost giggling with excitement for what was next. I could see that the other end of the toy was already inside her so she would get off too. 'Lay back, baby, I have something to show you' was all she whispered to me. Having already been making love for an hour, her body was musky and sweaty, as her breasts swung down to greet my hungry mouth. When she entered me, it was unlike any man, not just for being a toy, but because she brought a totally different motion to me. We rolled together in delight, both of knowing the best part - this could go on for hours and hours…"

8: Some like a crowd: threesomes and group sex

A very popular fantasy category, three-way encounters and group sex tend to fall into a few broad areas. With threesomes, some women fantasize about double penetration, while others envision penetration while another man performs cunnilingus. In any such scenario, the woman's pleasure is paramount, with the men dedicated to serving her every desire.

With groups, women often fantasize about several men (football teams, motorcycle gangs) who adore her and complement her sex appeal as they ravish her in turns. Alternately, groups can include more participatory, active scenarios, such as wild, romantic orgies that include both men and women experiencing all pleasures of each other's bodies. These fantasies often include opulent settings, elaborate rituals and outlandish characters, almost like a grand opera of sex!

Jasmine of Santa Barbara wrote, "I couldn't believe where all these people came from - there must have been a dozen hunky guys and super tasty girls in the living room - all of them naked and focused on me. This big stud knelt down near me, offering his organ for me to fondle and suck, while two of the babes smiled up at me as they gently kissed my inner thighs and began lapping up my honey as it flowed out of me. There was even a couple that began sucking on my toes, sending shivers of delight up my spine. In the midst of so much pleasure, I looked up to see Andrew, my beloved, smiling down at me, 'Happy birthday, baby.'"

9: Backdoor boogie: hot, undiscovered pleasure with anal sex

Anal sex connects to one of the body's key pleasure zones and can feel as though a woman is breaking a taboo. In addition to the visuals in her own mind, anal sex fantasies are easy to help fulfill with fingers or toys if a willing boyfriend is unavailable. Anal fantasies can accompany vaginal sex and include multiple partners, whether gentle or rowdy. For many women, fantasies of anal sex evolve slowly over time and often precede acting them out with lovers or toys. For the uninitiated, anal fantasies are best accompanied by plenty of lubrication - take your time and enjoy it - you will probably be surprised by how much pleasure you discover.

To discover new anal pleasures, see pages 71-75 of Tickle Your Fancy, where you will learn about lubrication, plugs, cleanliness and multiple techniques designed to enhance your orgasm.

Teri of Chicago wrote, "After putting tons of lubrication everywhere, I finally felt ready. I pulled my finger out and spread my cheeks wide for him, trusting that he'd be gentle with me. And he was, teasing me at first by gliding the shaft of his cock between my ass, pushing the veins of the shaft against my anus, making me want more. Slowly, he pushed the head in, and I winced for a second as it stretched me a bit. But then he was inside me: hard, warm and going deeper. I gasped at the first waves of pleasure as they shot through me, grunting at the ecstasy and force of this new experience. I could feel Scott getting more turned on as he held back, restraining his pace as I began to feel more comfortable, bucking myself back into him…"

10: Show me the money: getting paid for getting laid

As a variation of an audience or commanding power over their lovers, some women fantasize about working as a well-paid prostitute. More than being compensated, such fantasies often involve elaborate settings and wealthy patrons with the ability to bring her to explosive orgasms. As with some other types of visions, getting paid for sex is as much about an exchange of power as for the sex itself. In addition, there is a connotation of working as a courtesan, where the woman is taken care of in addition to providing a service.

Cassandra of New York wrote, "His penthouse was stunning in the light of the bright June morning. He was waiting on the private patio overlooking the park, speaking quickly into his cell phone about some deal. I purred up slowly from behind, opening the front of my blouse and warmly wrapping myself around him. He hesitated for a moment, realizing that I had him in my grasp, but unable to respond while he continued to negotiate. The warm summer air drew past us as the distant sounds of the city floated up from far below. I felt him getting hard inside his tailored slacks and began kissing his neck, knowing it was sweet torture for him. At last, he closed his conversation and turned to me, plunging his tongue into my mouth like a hungry animal."

11: Come fuck me on the wild side: erotic encounters in public spaces

There are many scenarios that fit into this fantasy genre, from wide-open fields and forests to sex at the office. Though natural settings can have the association of living in a primal state, with its affiliated simplicity and rawness, the most common theme between all settings is the possibility of being caught in the act. For women, being caught in the act not only has the implication of danger, but also of being with a confident lover who takes risks and creates sexual adventures. Equally important to many women is the opportunity of being seen, if not caught, similar to having an audience, as above. She is adored by her lover, free and open in nature, and lusted for by random strangers.

Elisa of Minneapolis wrote, "The rock formations were incredibly beautiful, stretching for miles in every direction, with towering spires and sweeping canyons that wove lazily along the river. When I turned back from looking at the thundering rapids below, he'd already laid out a comfy blanket on a smooth area nearby, approaching me like a big cat with his shirt already off and intense passion in his eyes. He never said a word, and just began kissing me with a low growl in his throat. A thousand miles from nowhere, on the top of a high vista, with the hot noonday sun beating down, we stripped naked, bucking and sliding on each other's sweaty bodies with no sense of time. Just a man, a woman, and the passion that held us together. I felt pure and at home in my own body, half wishing the hikers we'd passed on the trail would emerge around the bend to see us as our true selves…"

12: Let me show you the way: teaching and learning

In various ancient cultures, special women in a tribe or civilization would initiate young men into sexual expertise, training them how to be good lovers. The same applies to this type of fantasy, though perhaps in more common settings. For some women this genre can represent the desire to have a better lover or to feel sexually powerful, yet caring for their pupil. There are elements here of a magical discovery, of teaching what she would like to receive, or finding a young man with untapped sexual genius. On the other side, some women fantasize about being the student themselves, swept away by a confident, tender, strong, sexually sophisticated man.

Raquel of New Orleans wrote, "I was astonished by how much he had matured since I first took him by the hand to my bedroom so many years before. Not only was he bigger, taller and more muscular, but the intense gaze in his eyes spoke to me of a man who had been around the world and lived thousands of erotic encounters. He came to me, pressing his belly into mine, filling my mouth with his tongue, stroking me gently as I felt him grow harder and thicker. He picked me up and perched me on the trunk of his car without missing a beat, driving his passion through me like a freight train, getting me hot, wet and ready to beg for more…"
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